I am sure that if any of us went into a book shop, or library, today we could find several books on change. Many of them would focus on one thing or other, but all of them would be stating that if we want happiness or joy we must change; our weight, our size, our eating habits, our dreams and ambitions and so on, to name but a few. However if you do nothing today but stay in bed, life will still change.

Today i have the privilege to be sat in a nice comfy bed looking out my bedroom window. I don’t always get this opportunity but today i thought i would take it. Today has i look out the same window i looked out yesterday instead of seeing grey skies, i have blue skies and sunshine. Everything changed, but i did nothing. Tomorrow morning it will have changed again no matter what i do.

I have been pondering about all the change that has occurred in my life in the last two years since i had my fall. On the physical side my daughter went to university and i had to retire but there was more than that at stake. I changed mentally and emotionally too. When life changes so suddenly that our minds cannot keep up we suffer grief. I really do mean grief. Grief as in loss. We can lose a loved one, a job, our health, a relationship ends, it is all grief.

We all suffer loss of one kind or another and we all read the same books on grief; what it is, how to deal with it, the stages of it and so on. Having been through grief in my life on a number of levels i can say that grief comes in waves like the sea, sometimes it rolls in and sometimes it roars in, but it never came in stages.

The one thing i know for certain is that grief takes time and time brings change. It is up to us to accept the change that comes. We can no more change day into night or night into day but we can all wake for the dawn that will always and most definitely come, no matter what we do.